I am Good Enough
Posted on May 08 2017
When I was pregnant with Madden my brother and I had an interesting conversation. We were talking about accidents and how some accidents can leave scarring and make you look different. He told me that he didn't want to live through a burn accident because he knew he would look "different" than the way he did before. I was very hurt by the way he reacted because I knew that inside me at that moment was a little boy who was going to look "different" and that people were going to judge him for it.
Our society is groomed to love the pretty people. People who don't fit the mold can be teased, bullied, have very low self esteem/self worth, and feel somehow that they aren't as good as the "pretty people" society puts on a pedestal. I love what Kahlil Gibran says about beauty. "Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart." Every single person is beautiful. Every single person is good enough. Every single person has something only they can contribute to this world.
More and more kids today are being bullied, suffering from anxiety, and dealing with depression. Teaching them to love themselves for who they are is so important. Talking to our children about bullying and why it's so important to speak up for others could help stop the anxiety among those being bullied. I want Madden to know that there is nothing different with the way he looks. He is perfect just the way he is and society needs to change its view. I want my other children to be able to see those with scarring, disabilities or any other type of "difference" for who they really are: God's children who only want to be loved and included.
Using all types of models has been important to me in breaking the mold of what society thinks it should be. Inclusion is ALWAYS the right answer. Inner beauty is far more captivating and long lasting. True beauty radiates through anyone when they genuinely smile or laugh. When I look through the photos on my website I don't see children who have been bullied, teased, or who have disabilities; I see children who know how to love unconditionally if given the opportunity to feel like they are good enough.
(On a side note, I did talk to my brother about the way I felt. He had no idea he hurt me so deeply. He has since apologized to me and now regrets the way that he reacted.)